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Men.. Dating.. cowboys.. country.. rodeos.. and it is never too late!
Feb 13 2012 at 01:10am
So now what you came here for:
Men.. What the hell do we expect? As I say that I laugh. We all are looking for our MR RIGHT and too often find MR WRONG! BUT..if you really want to be driven crazy try getting married to a woman! ya know I was married to a woman before I knew I was gay and it wasn't all that bad.. to be married to a man didn't seem much different either. And yes I said it.. and you have read it before , "Before I knew I was gay" So so many say you had to have known you were gay. Nope not a clue.. no fantasy nothing.. it just wasn't there. sorta like a good friend you have.. you love them.. man or woman.. and you enjoy who they are and sex never enters into the equation. I had crushes on girls.. but the day I found out I was gay was at 35.. so who ever you are.. be who you are.. I have found that I was afraid of everything. Who I was from who knew who I was and trying to keep family from knowing who I was and wasn't.
Maybe it is that I am 49 but I hear of guys who are older than I and they are still scared of letting anyone know who they are. I found out I just had to get over myself. All my fears never seemed to come about. When I told friends they never left. maybe that means they were my true friends. Family no was another story but after I told them I was gay I sort of stayed away. Now I am back going home for visits and they have found I am still the same son, brother, uncle and I am not anything different than I ever was. We shall see how family reacts when they meet someone I care for.
As for MEN... enjoy who you are.. enjoy what type of man you like and don't settle. They say when you stop looking that is when you find who you were always looking for. I saw one of my friends post something on facebook and I had to agree. You have to be happy with who you are first and be able to be alone. There is a difference in being alone and being lonely. You can be in a relationship and be lonely. When you are happy being alone and you can deal with being lonely then you have a better chance at finding love cause you will look at life and at men differently.
I saw one mans post here about dating. I can agree with most of what he said. You can get burnt dating but this happens in any relationship. There are so many out there who are "LONELY" and they are looking for something to fill that void for them so they try and say anything. If they would stop trying to be someone they are not maybe the right one would find them.
My problem in life was I was never happy being single and I was always lonely. Then instead of dating I went right into the relationship. With my new interest we have worked at it in a different way. We both have been hurt and when we share stories we see that we have both went through the same trials.
Funny part is we met here a while back. He was going his way and I was going mine. He was starting a new relationship and I was just getting out of one. Sometimes the right guy is out there but it just isn't the right time. The key is to be patient.
When we started talking again we laughed at all our bad dates and so we worked on building a friendship. Today we are still building on this friendship. We have had one date and there is a second which will be this next weekend. I will be doing that instead of the Phoenix rodeo this year. sometimes love is more important than a rodeo. NOT always... but sometimes.. and good thing.. this guy loves rodeos.
Speaking of that brings me to cowboys. What makes a cowboy. Someone sees me in my wrangles and a western shirt I have some say.. you look like a cowboy.. others say.. well you are a cowboy.. and others say where did you get that costume. I laugh and say I go to church dressed like this. If you look at someones pics through the years and you see cowboy hats and boots and other western wear then that means this guy has a style. He can be country even if he lives in the city. Some of us got the chance to grow up on a farm and others of us wish we could have that in our lives. I say enjoy what you enjoy. If you love golf then be a golfer. If you love the western way of life then be a cowboy. Last year was my first year doing rodeos and when people see my pics on facebook they ask is that really you? I may have not won a buckle..YET.. but I do enjoy rodeo from the arena or from the bleachers... I plan on going to Vegas and to Santa Fe and with luck I can get the guy I am dating to come to one of them.
As far as when to move to the country... you are never too old.. heck at 49 I started rodeo. I grew up on a farm and will return to the farm soon but for those of you who love the country make the plunge. Find yourself a piece of property. It will be lots of work but when you go to bed all worn out and too tired to move you will know it is all worth it. Some of us are okay being an hour away from any town and others want our farm close to the city. enjoy what you enjoy, but one word of warning, a 2 or 3 acre lot does not make a ranch. I always have to laugh when I hear that one! Maybe a ranchette but not a ranch! LOL
RODEOS: Gay or Straight enjoy the ride. Support your cowboys and cheer them on.. get off your ass and get out there and rodeo yourself. Again you are never too old. Even if it is putting underpants on a goat. Any rodeo you go to will let you sign up with a IGRA organization and then rodeo. They welcome new contestants just get there early on Friday and then make sure you make the New Cowboy meeting on Saturday morning EARLY before the rodeo. Come on cowboys get off your asses!
So for dating, cowboys, Country and or rodeos it is never NEVER too late to follow your heart.
I have learned to be happy with who you are.. be happy with being alone.. and then you can truely be happy when the right one comes along.. but they too should be happy with whom they are and can be happy alone. With this you should never feel lonely while you are around them or away from them. Build the relationship on trust and love and most of all make sure you are good friends or in the end you have nothing to fall back on.
Hope to see you on the rodeo trail soon.. holler anytime and if you don't agree with parts of this or the entire jumble of words say so.. I can take the hit.. My hopes are.. that someone out there will read this and connect to it.. and find out that they are not alone.. There are others of us out here who mess things up and are just stumbling through life.. the key is to get back up... dust yourself off.. and jump back on the ride called life.. sometimes its a bitch.. but other times as you sit and watch the sun set on the western sky.. you get that feeling that life is great.. you have many things to live for.. and thank God for.. and you are ready for another new day tomorrow!
Never give up.. NEVER give in...